am convinced beyond doubt that “Life is
for learning; not for ageing”.
is because of that I started seeing positive changes within me. There is a Life Principle (call it Godif you prefer it that way) with an onerous responsibility of shaping/mending
this Body-Mind complex in a particular direction, as a means to gradually
evolve it to newer heights.
The methodology followed is “Blow
hot-Blow cold”. Unlike the animal world,
human beings are given limited freedom with the option to use or abuse this
freedom more as a test to find how much one is evolved. So, the Life Principle
incessantly works in orchestrating/organizing situations and events time and
again until we learn the lesson out of such experiences. Now you know why we
get into same situation repeatedly – learn the lesson, it paves the way!
Anybody can safely vouch for what is
being said if one cares to look within, with the highest degree of
objectivity. We all can definitely see a
particular pattern operating or running the show of our lives – if they are
good and fetching positive benefits, fine !; but what if, if they are disempowering
and dysfunctional (from our Perspective)?
With our usual “Success because of me; Failure because of you” attitude (this ‘you’
can be anybody or anything from your spouse to God), we slip into blame games
for all our failures and become victims. The impending danger in this blame
game and becoming a victim is that without our knowledge, we reinforce the very
thing or situation we don’t want since the mind can only manifest what is given
to it by way of Inputs (the fearful/anxious thoughts that should not happen to
me is our “Inputs” you agree).
When I was in my mid-forties, I got
the glimpse of this phenomenon. Dr.
Meenagundi Subramanya’s book “Manassu Illada Maarga (in Kannada)” followed by
direct contact with the author, helped me to understand my shortcomings. When I
checked deep within, it confirmed that I was suffering because of certain
behavioural drives, which were creating certain negative patterns.
The negative drives that were
affecting then and to some extent even today influencing my (negative) patterns
Up; Be Perfect; Try Hard; Don’t say “No”.
Can you imagine anybody working,
whether in office or at home, with a sense of achieving Perfectionism in
whatever one does - in a hurry and without even saying “No”? Especially to the
higher ups – the parental figures and bosses! The first symptom of such dysfunctional,
conflict-ridden behavior is “hypertension” which I definitely got!
It is only then that I slowly I
started thinking ‘What is Life imparting
through this particular experience?’
What changes I should make in myself; mainly in my attitude, if I do not
want such experience to repeat. I must say it is a time consuming and a
difficult, challenging task to get rid of a thief within, than an outside
enemy. But thanks to the timely introspection, I am far far better today. And I
am happy and healthy.
So yes, Learning is the essence Life. And
in other words, “You are the Master of your Destiny”!