During my virtual training sessions, I was intrigued
by some reflections of female students on the topic “would you prefer to wake up
one day with a different face but same gender or different gender but same
face.” Mind it that these participants
come from lower-middle- and middle-class families. To my utmost surprise almost
40% of females shared that they would prefer to wake up as a different gender
but the same face. Giving their justifications on their share, the major reason
what I could find was the blatant gender discriminations these females have
been experiencing in their lives. They shared that they would like to enjoy a
free life like the males---free of undue restrictions.
This is what has been a norm in plenty of our homes
where girls accept the secondary position and swallow their pain quietly----there
is no doubt that the status of women has improved but it is still prevalent in
uneducated societies, though quite saddening, even educated parents, who
believe in gender equality end up actions that are contrary to their beliefs as
what they do arises straight from what they have seen in their families as children.
Girls watch their mothers tiptoe around their fathers. In houses where women
eat after the men and are trained to be happy with leftovers and asked to spare
the most luscious piece of meat for brothers, fathers, sons, and husbands. They
are led to believe that nothing could be nobler than sacrificing their meals,
things, and other resources for the male counterparts. They have observed their
brothers growing up valuing the sanctity of their personal space and time,
quite forgetful of their sisters, mothers, or other females in their house. So,
it not at all surprising to see the post-dinner table cleared up of soiled dishes
by the daughter and not the son. For him probably watching a cricket match with
his father is more important than cleaning up the mess----which would take only a few minutes.
We have seen in the past when women were treated as
outcasts during important financial decisions of the house, at the time of the
nominations or disbursing family funds. There had been quite a number of
incidents where son’s names were affixed under father’s name for any
nominations. Thanks to our system and various steps taken by the government that
things have changed a lot and constantly changing. More and more girls are
availing education and thinking about their lives to be self-reliant. Recurring
self-limiting and self-deprecatory thoughts are being replaced by self-appreciation.
They are aware of their rights and responsibilities too. They refuse to be
encumbered with all the menial and domestic jobs at home. In a few of the
families, we see that girls enjoy their rightful share of the property and also experience
a significant place in decision making in family businesses. The question
arises ---Is that happening in all the families?
A lot has been done but there is plenty more. The
mindset of the people has to be changed. I was overjoyed to see in one of my
interactive sessions when a male student was constantly trying to help her
cousin to come out of her shell as she was quite reserved in nature. At my home
as well, when I see my son helping me and his wife at several errands, it wells
me up with lots of happiness and satisfaction that I have given him the right
education to be a good human being. There is still a lot to be done to nurture
the mind, body, and soul of our daughters to make them grow as confident and
self-sufficient individuals, who feel more valued and worthy. For this to
happen, a girl child must feel loved and secure in her house. She should feel
the freedom and encouragement to pursue her dreams without having to battle
favoritism and unreasonable restrictions. I am sure then they would not think
of having born as a different gender. I feel women are the best creations of God
---the most prized possessions of mankind. Isn’t it----What do you say?
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