No one can deny being selfish at
times. Even though we may strive for selflessness, all humans have a built-in
selfishness in them.
What I call
selflessness may seem selfish for another person. We can do many things for
someone, yet for just one or two incidents we can still be called selfish. What many don’t understand is that we can
be selfish towards some people and in some areas of our life and may or may not
be with everyone and every area of our life. Some may find happiness in
serving others while some might choose not to do things for others.
Selfless people get more appreciation
than selfish people because a selfish person doesn’t fit into the society’s
norms. In our
culture we are taught to think of other’s before our own needs. Probably this
was done so that we don’t get self-absorbed and disregard others by being
egoistic and live only for ourselves.
choose to be selfless or selfish regardless of the reason. Maybe it’s in their
personality or based on their past experiences or they are just that way. Both
are right in their own ways.
Don’t you think we take a decision
based on our strongest desire and not based on everyone’s desire? While the same decision can be
acceptable to some, others may disagree and will find us selfish if we don’t meet
their expectations. They may assume that we are indulging in your own
happiness, rather than do things for them or others.
Trying to maintaining others approval
and validation is a constant work in progress. Thinking of others should be based on
situation. We shouldn’t be taken
advantage of or exploited. We shouldn’t let things go to the extent that
people start demanding from us. Over a period of time we will be expected to
make bigger sacrifices which leads to resentment.
Taking care of oneself is not selfishness and should be made a
priority. Only if you take care of yourself you can help others and do
things for them. We shouldn’t allow our
wellness to suffer when putting others first.
Sometimes, we have to be selfish to be
not good or bad. Extremes are not helpful either and a healthy mix has to be
So it’s all about doing things from our
heart without thinking of the reward, but knowing when to say yes or no and
knowing exactly where to stop without overdoing anything is equally important.
To strike the right balance to
benefit our own self and others,I feel “We have to
selfishly love ourselves and selflessly love others”.
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