We all do it regularly, but if you think what
is Self-Sabotage and why we do it?
Self-Sabotage refers to behaviors or thought
patterns that hold us back and prevent us from doing what we actually want to
It may be due
to lack of self-esteem, being unsure of ourselves or to please others and many
more factors depending upon the person and the situation we are dealing with.
see some of the self-sabotaging behavior we might have. It can be self-criticism,
anxiety, sadness, addictions, over planning, seeking approval from others,
inconsistent behavior, shame, guilt, doing more than necessary, or not able to
say no and lots lots more.
behaviors may not be invalid, in fact they may seem right and can be justified
at that point of time when we make decisions because it makes us feel in
control of our situations. But over a period of time when we look back and think
with a different mindset we may feel that self-sabotage wasn’t necessary and
didn’t help us in anyway. We might even
feel unhappy and worse for our self-sabotaging behavior and decisions.
Remember all the negative emotions we have will
continually be ingrained and reinforced in us. If we don’t look into them at
the earliest, such behaviors will end up undermining our own wishes, dreams,
success, happiness and values.
noticing your behavior patterns to bring in more clarity and awareness about
your own self right away.
understand some of the self-sabotaging behavior which you might have, it will
make you realize who you are as a person.
reflect if the other person understands your sacrifice and commitment
while you limit yourself and hamper your own happiness.
It may not
be possible to eliminate them completely but you can make necessary changes in
the way you deal with situations by making your happiness a priority.
way to work through self-sabotage is to take control of your own decisions,
face your fears, accept and take responsibility for your mistakes, learn from
them and move on.
Understand that you are in control of your
decisions and not the outcome.
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