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Published: Feb 9th, 2021 10:50 amBy Sujitha Sanil


We all do it regularly, but if you think what is Self-Sabotage and why we do it?

Self-Sabotage refers to behaviors or thought patterns that hold us back and prevent us from doing what we actually want to do.

It may be due to lack of self-esteem, being unsure of ourselves or to please others and many more factors depending upon the person and the situation we are dealing with.

Now let’s see some of the self-sabotaging behavior we might have. It can be self-criticism, anxiety, sadness, addictions, over planning, seeking approval from others, inconsistent behavior, shame, guilt, doing more than necessary, or not able to say no and lots lots more.

All these behaviors may not be invalid, in fact they may seem right and can be justified at that point of time when we make decisions because it makes us feel in control of our situations. But over a period of time when we look back and think with a different mindset we may feel that self-sabotage wasn’t necessary and didn’t help us in anyway.  We might even feel unhappy and worse for our self-sabotaging behavior and decisions.

Remember all the negative emotions we have will continually be ingrained and reinforced in us. If we don’t look into them at the earliest, such behaviors will end up undermining our own wishes, dreams, success, happiness and values.

So start noticing your behavior patterns to bring in more clarity and awareness about your own self right away.

Once you understand some of the self-sabotaging behavior which you might have, it will make you realize who you are as a person.

Think and reflect if the other person understands your sacrifice and commitment while you limit yourself and hamper your own happiness.

It may not be possible to eliminate them completely but you can make necessary changes in the way you deal with situations by making your happiness a priority.

The best way to work through self-sabotage is to take control of your own decisions, face your fears, accept and take responsibility for your mistakes, learn from them and move on.

Understand that you are in control of your decisions and not the outcome.

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